Language can be constricting, in particular when attempting to convey a cavalcade of visions and emotions – which is what a reading is. How we express ourselves is therefore of uttermost importance. One can never take for granted that the frame of reference is universal – quite the contrary. At my psychic circle we had this discussion the other week, on the gravity of words. This came to mind a couple of days ago, after I received an email reading from a psychic, who I accidentally came across online. I was perusing eBay for a few items, when I on a whim decided to type in “psychic reading” in the search bar. It resulted in pages and pages of psychics offering their services in bold letters along with portraits of them hunching over crystal balls and tarots cards. Curious, I clicked on a link of a psychic with ridiculously low prices but with rave reviews. Unable to resist such a bargain, I purchased a three question reading and emailed my personal information together with what I wanted to get answered. Now, I rarely get read myself, perhaps once or twice a year. Of course, I partake in psychic circles and classes, where we practice read each other all the time. However, I do not seek psychics out. My personal conviction is that readings should be a rarity. Too many times, I’ve encountered people addicted to readings, especially when I was working for a phone line. As with most things in life, moderation is key.

But going back to the reading, it was sent to me rather promptly. It wasn’t very eloquent and was missing punctuation throughout, but the gist was quite impressive – considering the modest rate. (I actually ended up visiting this psychic’s website, where I purchased a full reading for a lot more, but it was basically the same thing as the initial cheap reading – the same length, less than a page.) I’m not bringing up the spelling mistakes out of snobbery, but to illustrate a point. This person quite accurately outlined my life, without ever getting down to detail. Nevertheless, the generous use of the word “negative” was unfortunately off-putting. “Negative” was related to a trauma I experienced in my youth and which I according to them still was suffering from. Then they offered to cleanse my chakras in order to release me from this said “negativity”. Unlike many other psychics with this business model, this particular one wasn’t too pushy about it. The sad part is that I could relate to the trauma, and yes, it has shaped me in many ways. Plus being queer in this world tends to be traumatic. But I wouldn’t necessarily label it as negative, nor do I believe that a chakra cleansing would accomplish a lot. Quite frankly, I don’t believe in aura or chakra cleansing. Nor do the teachers at the Arthur Findlay College. The only one who can change your energetic field is you. Still this idea of aura cleansing persists – mainly in North America (where this psychic is from).

So the entire reading was littered with the word “negativity”, which is a shame seeing how many elements of it resonated with me. It made me wonder how a person less experienced with psychics would react to it. Would it frighten them? I got this reading out of sheer inquisitiveness, but what if I, like many clients, needed genuine help. Psychics are not psychologists, but we’re still professionals. As such we need to abide to a code of ethics and weigh our words carefully before sharing them with a client. A reading should be a constructive experience regardless of its content. I’d still recommend this particular psychic, but with a disclaimer to take with a grain a salt. Then again, not every psychic is for every person.